Exclusive Interview: Dr. Alduan Tartt & Pastor Jamal Bryant on Love, Marriage & Relationship Wisdom
Watch the full interview above before diving into these key takeaways!
When it comes to love and marriage, many women are searching for wisdom on how to find the right partner and cultivate a thriving relationship. In an exclusive conversation with Pastor Jamal Bryant, Dr. Alduan Tartt shared powerful insights on expanding the dating pool, strengthening emotional connections in marriage, and the hidden dangers of dating men with unresolved mother wounds. Here are three essential takeaways from their discussion:
1. Expanding Your Social Circle to Find the Right Man
Dr. Tartt emphasized that one of the biggest mistakes women make in dating is limiting their social interactions. If you want to meet quality, marriage-minded men, you have to be intentional about expanding your network. This means:
Attending social events, conferences, and community gatherings where eligible men are present.
Engaging in activities that naturally attract high-caliber individuals, such as leadership groups, volunteering, or faith-based organizations.
Stepping outside your comfort zone by accepting invitations, traveling, and being open to new experiences.
Pastor Bryant agreed, noting that faith and action go hand in hand. "You can pray for a husband, but you also have to put yourself in a position to be found," he said. The takeaway? Be social, be seen, and be strategic.
2. Prioritizing Deep Emotional Connection & Friendship in Marriage
While attraction and romance are important, Dr. Tartt stressed that the foundation of a successful marriage is deep emotional intimacy and genuine friendship. He explained that couples who thrive long-term focus on:
Consistently engaging in meaningful conversations beyond surface-level topics.
Prioritizing quality time together to nurture their bond.
Supporting each other emotionally, mentally, and spiritually through life’s challenges.
Pastor Bryant echoed this sentiment, emphasizing that "the couples who last are the ones who can laugh together, cry together, and genuinely enjoy one another’s company." If you're in a relationship or marriage, make it a point to cultivate true friendship—it’s the glue that holds everything together.
3. The Danger of Dating Men with Toxic Mother-Son Relationships
Perhaps one of the most eye-opening points of the conversation was Dr. Tartt’s warning about dating men with unresolved trauma from harsh, toxic, or absent mothers. He explained that a boy’s first love is his mother, and if that relationship is unhealthy, it can create deep wounds that impact his ability to love and connect in adulthood.
Signs of concern include:
A man who has a strained or non-existent relationship with his mother but hasn’t processed or healed from it.
Someone who either idolizes his mother to an unhealthy degree or resents her deeply, affecting his perception of women.
An inability to express vulnerability, emotional closeness, or commitment in relationships.
Dr. Tartt strongly advised women to be discerning and, if necessary, encourage counseling before entering a serious relationship. "If he hasn’t done the inner work, you’ll be the one paying the emotional cost," he cautioned.
Final Thoughts
This powerful discussion between Dr. Alduan Tartt and Pastor Jamal Bryant provided invaluable wisdom for women seeking love and fulfilling relationships. From expanding your dating options to deepening marital bonds and being aware of red flags in a man’s emotional health, these insights can transform the way you approach relationships.
What are your thoughts on these takeaways? Let’s continue the conversation in the comments below!
