Where Are All the Good Men? 5 Faith-Inspired Ways to Find Quality Partners

If you’re single and searching for a meaningful relationship, you’ve probably asked yourself, Where are all the good men? While it might seem that finding a compatible partner is tougher than ever, the key may lie in where—and how—you’re looking. Below, we explore five practical and faith-inspired strategies to expand your social world and bring quality connections into your life. Many of these tips are the book, Get The Guy, by Matthew Hussey.

1. Expand Your Social Life with Intentionality

Ever wondered if you’ve been looking in the wrong places? Discover how expanding your social circle with intentionality can bring the right people into your life!

Problem: Sticking to a narrow social circle can limit the diversity of people you meet, leaving potential connections unexplored.

Scripture Insight: “As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another.” — Proverbs 27:17. Just as we grow in our faith through community, expanding our connections enriches and sharpens us.

Solution: Rather than relying on dating apps, intentionally place yourself in spaces that align with your values. Join a hobby group, volunteer, or attend community events that attract people with similar interests and values. You’re more likely to meet quality men when engaging in activities that reflect who you are and what you believe in.

2. Adopt the “Chooser” Mindset

Are you waiting to be chosen, or are you stepping up as a chooser? Embrace the confidence to take control of your love life with tips inspired by Ruth in the Biblical

Problem: Waiting for men to make the first move can mean missing out on potential connections.

Scripture Insight: In Ruth 3:3-4, Ruth showed courage by positioning herself to be noticed by Boaz. Her proactive approach set the stage for a meaningful relationship, demonstrating that confidence and initiative can be blessings.

Solution: Adopt the “chooser” mindset, inspired by Matthew Hussey’s advice. Take the lead by making eye contact, smiling, and being open to starting a conversation. These small gestures can make all the difference in showing interest without overwhelming. Embracing this mindset allows you to take control of your interactions, opening doors to connections you might have missed otherwise.

3. Work the Room and Engage with Confidence

Imagine stepping into a room and feeling totally at ease, ready to connect. Discover how ‘working the room’ can change your dating life—and it doesn’t require a big personality shift!

Problem: Being overly reserved or shy in social settings can unintentionally close you off from meaningful interactions.

Scripture Insight: “For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind.” — 2 Timothy 1:7. Boldness in social settings reflects the strength God instills in us.

Solution: Practice “working the room” with small steps, like positioning yourself in high-traffic areas (near the refreshment table or entrance) where people naturally gather. Smile, make eye contact, and maintain open body language to signal that you’re approachable. Working the room with subtle confidence lets you step out in faith, showing others that you’re open to connection.

4. Leverage Prosocial Behaviors

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Problem: Appearing unapproachable can make it difficult for others to initiate contact.

Scripture Insight: “Let your conversation be always full of grace, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how to answer everyone.” — Colossians 4:6. Showing grace and openness in our interactions invites others in and encourages genuine connections.

Solution: Simple gestures, like smiling, making eye contact, or complimenting someone, are powerful ways to show warmth and openness. These prosocial behaviors help create rapport and invite positive interactions. Practicing kindness and approachability not only makes you more approachable but also enriches the lives of those around you.

5. Seek Balanced Social Circles That Reflect Your Goals

Could your current social circles be holding you back from meeting the right person? Let’s explore how aligning with like-minded people can attract better relationships into your life!

Problem: Associating with people who don’t share your values can lead to mismatches in potential partners.

Scripture Insight: “Do not be misled: ‘Bad company corrupts good character.’” — 1 Corinthians 15:33. Building relationships in environments that align with your values encourages character-building connections.

Solution: Evaluate your social circles and consider whether they support your growth and relationship goals. Seek out communities that share your values, like faith-based groups or professional networks aligned with your goals. Surrounding yourself with like-minded people not only strengthens your faith journey but increases your chances of meeting someone compatible.

In a world where dating can feel overwhelming, these five solutions offer faith-inspired steps to help you move beyond traditional dating struggles. By intentionally expanding your social settings, adopting a proactive mindset, and engaging in authentic ways, you’ll create space for meaningful connections rooted in shared values and mutual respect. Embrace these steps, grounded in both scripture and practical application, and you may just find that the “good men” you’re looking for aren’t as hard to find as you thought.

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